Tiger Wood’s is not the only one who desires help!

Article written by Nekisha-Michelle Bakre, MSW

 Jesse James, Gospel singer’s Tye Tribitt and J. Moss, Detroit’s former mayor, Kwame Kilpatrick, NBA star’s Michael Jordan and Kobe Bryant, former President Bill Clinton, former presidential candidates John McCain and John Edwards, former mayor of NYC, Rudy Giuliani, business tycoon, Donald Trump, actor Morgan Freeman and the maestro of directing, James Cameron. What do all these high profile men have in common? They have, at some point, forgotten their marriage vows and indulged in extra-marital affairs.

 A Google search for why celebrity men who cheat yielded 2,790,000 entries and of that, the first two pages were saturated with assumptions and theories as to why these men cheat. The point is that men cheat because they want to and they can. It is also believed that 75 percent of married men cheat.

Let’s consider the profiles of the women they are cheating with. Since the Tiger Woods scandal – there has been an increase of women entering my life coaching practice who are weary of being the “other woman,” but lack the personal courage to resist. Although there is no one size that fits all in terms of solutions to the plethora of women attracted to the power and success of these men, we have to question why they make themselves available.

Why High Profile Men?

In speaking with these women, the five reasons that were common among them were:

1. All the “good” men are taken

2. I may not get another chance at love

3. He gives me expensive gifts and trips

4. He said he is going to leave her for me

5. She doesn’t deserve him  

In this next section is a private interview of a woman and new client who is attached to dating high profile married men and has dated in excess of five relationships.

 Q: When did you first start dating married men and what was the situation?

A: He had all the major qualities that I like when selecting a man – he would surprise me with expensive gifts and lots of them, we were sexually compatible – he was financially supportive, there was such a strong physical attraction that it was unreal. However, I really didn’t know he was married until 13 months into the relationship. Maybe I did know but didn’t care. What I wanted I received.

Q: Do/did you ever consider the position of the wife?

 A: No because my position is that she must not be doing something right because he is pursuing me. He wants me; he sneaks around to be with me.

 Q: What is so attractive about dating married men?

A: It is like a cycle that becomes too irresistible to stop – I got into my second relationship trying to get out of the past relationship. I left a married man for the arms of another. They have a way of making you feel special, sexy and irresistible. I love the attention and the promise and the fantasy that true loves really exist – I just must be patient for it to work out for my complete benefit. The gifts and trips to me are like the engagement ring. It’s like a promissory note that we will be totally together soon.

 Q: Why high profile men?

A: It starts out like a school girl crush, in fact, the second time around it is much easier than the first experience. I went from admiring him and then became completely flattered because he was a high profile public figure. I also considered the life he was providing for his wife and family. I am very attracted to men who live like kings and then I think about the wife and get irritated because I truly believe she is unworthy and maybe ungrateful for the life she has been given. My dream is to live like that. I want to be able to live in my mansion and have my man take care of me. I want him to rescue me from my struggle of not being happy. Her life is the life I want to live.

Q: What are the complications?

A: No matter what I do – I still have to sleep alone most nights and deal with my own conscious replaying to me how empty and confused I am. I am in constant conflict because I can’t figure out what I can do so that I can be the wife. Trying to figure out if this is the day he is going to leave her for me. I stay so preoccupied that my work suffers; I stay mentally exhausted and obsessed with anxious thoughts. My life stays stagnated – I don’t increase no matter what I do.

On the other hand it makes me ever so vain and conscious of my image- I work out harder and more because I want my body to stay acceptable, I try to become more ambitious but at the end of the day depression is re-current presence underneath me keeping my nails, hair and body together. I am not doing it for me – I am doing it in hopes that my knight in shining armor will rescue me. Then I get angry because I don’t understand why I didn’t meet him first, why didn’t I get the chance to be the wife first.

Q: Why can’t you just stop and date men who are unattached?

A: As crazy as it sounds, it’s the same as being addicted to anything like drugs, food, gambling – when you get immersed in the culture it becomes what you know and habitually what you do. I wish like hell sometimes I could say no, but I don’t, because I always think it will be different this time. I tell myself, I can get away with it—this time it is going to be just dinner. This time I am not going to fall in love with him. This time we are just going to be friends. This time I am not going to break up the happy home but I truly hope that on the other side of the rainbow at the end of dinner it always moves right into the same thing – a relationship and we become soul bonded.

Q: Have you ever sought professional help for this issue?

 A: No, to get my mind off the issue or to build myself up between relationships – I will find myself trying to add extra-curricular activities to my schedule, I try to busy myself with work and I attempt to get in touch with my spiritual self – but all of these last short term. I can’t date without worrying about is this going to be my husband. I didn’t think what I engage in warrants professional help. The issue would be over with a proposal.

Q: How does the relationship usually dissolve?

A: I usually leave because the inner and external conflict becomes too heavy for me. For example: I begin to hate every time he has to go to his wife, when he has to make a phone call by stepping out of the room to talk to his wife. The sarcasm starts when he can’t be with me for long periods of time. Planning dates months in advance and then canceling because of the wife. Every time I have to attend something by myself. All of this is so stupid but it is a game and it’s the game that I am a part of. Initially, you never hear about the wife but as time goes on – she keeps coming up. It seems like once they get what they want – the dynamics change.

Q: Is this behavior something you would change if you understood how to?

A: Absolutely, I can’t sleep at night thinking of ways to leave him but at the same time I long for the text messages, the emails and his attention. I can’t wait to see what the next day in this adventure will bring.

Q: What would you say to the other women who are in a situation of being the other woman?
A: Don’t open Pandora’s Box – because you will ultimately end up writing a check that you can’t pay for later. It is truly like selling your soul to the devil and you have no control over it because what you want is wrapped up in the hansom financially fit package.

Q: What would you say to the wives of the men you are dating?

A: Wake up and do happy check-ups with your husband because when they are not truly happy with themselves – they are going to look for fulfillment on the outside. Don’t be so consumed with yourself – see what he is missing and help him get it. Because I do blame the wives and what you don’t do – I will!

Q: Do you feel addicted and compelled to date married men?
A: Yes, because I believe in success and I love successful men and I am attracted to their life and I want to be a part of it. I also believe it’s the competition to try to fight for the seat that I want to fill. The bottom line is I don’t get off hurting people and wrecking other peoples homes in fact there is a lot of remorse that comes after the devastation hits. However, the guilt of knowing that he prefers to be with me over his wife is enough to keep me in the relationship.

 Breaking Invisible Chains

A significant part of what I do as a life coach is help individuals who come to me feel comfortable with telling the truth. Also to feel comfortable with sharing their flaws and then after a serious of processes and exercises together, there is an inner illumination of what they really want. The answer appears directing the session to help them discover what will minimize the problem and Super-Size their happiness. Far to often, individuals believe focusing on healing the problem is the solution – I totally disagree; I work with my clients on focusing on their happiness and the happier and more fulfilled they are from the inside out – the addictions, the fears, the worry, the anxiety, the depression will often times then not disappear.  All of this is the very answer to breaking invisible chains.

Breaking Invisible Chains is a concept in my book that speaks to how to redesign your life so that you are free from the self-hatred, self-distraction and self-judgment that 50 percent was inherited, and the other 50 percent was learned through surroundings and or as a result of traumatic events that were not dealt with in a healthy way. For the sake of this article I want to share from Breaking Invisible Chains the principle and process of how to begin to get the help you desire when faced with these situations.

Super Soul Detox

 This is the process of healing and cleansing the soul of toxins and disease of the emotional self. It walks you through a shifting of a new inner paradigm to ultimately understand how to release psychological reversal or also known as self-sabotaging behaviors. In this case you could see from the interview the reoccurring theme is that all she really wanted was her reality of a successful man to be deeply in love with her, marry her and treat her like a queen. However, her actions and the habit to which she has adopted consistently give her the opposite. Based on the law of attraction, she is repelling what she wants every time she engages in the behavior that is proven to give her what she doesn’t want.

 Four strategies to help you minimize your problem:

 1. Sit reflectively and ask yourself the right questions so that your hidden dilemma of feeling powerless over your emotional appetite/pulse can be clear and addressed.

– Once you understand and can tell the truth as to why you do what you do, at the root- the easier it will be to dissolve the unwanted behavior and be precise in your personal plan for inner transformation. Digging up the root will provide cues and clues to redesigning the results.

 2. Learn to operate the power of right focus.
– Right focus will induce the ability to create in your life the alignment needed to say what you want, believe it’s your birthright to have it and the powerful ability to manifest it as well as embrace it once it happens.  This process trains the mind to pay no attention to what you don’t want to happen. This is a process of meditation because what ever you are obsessed over (the negative component of meditation) you will constantly recreate in your life.
3. Engage in a regular program of soul detoxification.
-A successful program will help you let go of feeling out of control, beguiled into doing things you don’t want, it will help you establish healthy boundaries, an accurate self-image and establish you in soul harmony so that you will no longer feel like something is missing or broken in your life. This is the process of ending the negative self-chatter.

 4. Don’t attempt this on your own.

-One of the major keys to breaking invisible chains is engaging the support, guidance and accountability of a coach, therapist or mentor. The Bible states in the book of Psalm the first chapter, (paraphrased) being accountable to someone with wisdom can keep your soul out of unnecessary suffering. Having someone who can hear and see the situation providing an alternate point-of-view benefits you by expanding your capacity to be deeply in touch with your motives and your personal truths. The more acquainted with your personal truth the more happy and free you will feel.

 Hell No! I’m Flattered, But You’re Married

Let’s stop acting shocked each time the media uncovers a story about a high profile man like Tiger Woods who made the conscious choice to disrespect his marriage vows. Pray for the strength of the wife and moreover, demonstrate intellectual empathy to the women who make themselves available for a fantasy that many of them were taught as a child. The Prince is coming to rescue Cinderella from her evil stepmother and step sisters. Unfortunately, as in this article, the Prince may be the high profile –married picture of success.

My plea is that women who find themselves in the situation, with the opportunity to date a married man, would consider the words of the woman in this interview and would introspectively understand the complications and conflict that will arise from the situation. Tiger Wood’s is not the only one who desires help and my final words to you as the potential other woman, when a man steps to you and you know he is married that you will make it a practice to say, “Hell No, I’m flattered but you’re married.”

Each time you do it – you will gain strength and increase your value as a woman. Who knows, just by saying no – you may be saying yes very soon to the real man of your dreams.

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The Faces of Anger

Written by Nekisha-Michelle

Someone overstepped our boundaries without permission at some point in your life or maybe recently and what you don’t know is when that happened it left an imprint stamped in your soul.  The soul is the place that bundles your mind, will and emotions.  This is also where our personal power is housed, because when the mind, will and emotions are in sync and are at it’s highest good it creates the ability to do anything and your confidence swells.

When your boundaries are crossed without permission the imprint that it leaves on your soul causes your soul to deflate which means your personal power deflates and your confidence deflates.  This deflation leaves a hole or a void and that void is filled with and emotion of  false power and false pride called anger.

What most people don’t know until anger cost you to lose something or keeps you from getting what you desire and deserve is that anger shows up with many faces.  It was anger that cost me an important financial contract, it was anger that landed me 3 days in a county jail and it was anger that caused me to abort several very good relationships.
Some physical faces of anger include:

clenching your jaws or grinding your teeth
headache
stomach ache
increased and rapid heart rate
sweating, especially your palms
feeling hot in the neck/face
shaking or trembling
dizziness
Emotional faces of anger:

like you want to get away from the situation
irritated
sad or depressed
guilty
resentful
anxious
like striking out verbally or physically
Also, you may notice these faces of anger:

rubbing your head
cupping your fist with your other hand
pacing
getting sarcastic
losing your sense of humor
acting in an abusive or abrasive manner
craving a drink, a smoke or other substances that relax you
raising your voice
beginning to yell, scream, or cry
When we understand what’s happening in our lives and why- it strengthens character and personal power. When we don’t understand signs, cues and clues it can be detrimental to our lively-hood and overall well being.
 
If after seeing the faces of anger and you realize that this may be a challenge you are dealing with the first step is to be honest and the second step is to share it with a professional.  The economic times and the inability to get what you want out of life can be dangerous to you and you need support.
 
Anger leads to STD – Soul Transmitted Dis-Ease called, physical illnesses, mental illnesses, broken relationships and self-destructive habits. 

You can make your life an anger-free zone by:

1. Teaching others how to treat you.  Speak up and defend yourself!
2. Listen to your inner intuition when it tells you something isn’t right about a situation.
3. Forgive and forget whoever crossed those boundaries but do let them know how you feel.
4. Don’t be afraid to admit when you feel alone and out of control – the quicker you share the better off you will be.
5. Understand you are not a failure you are experiencing life and all it offers.

Failing to respond and protect your personal power will open your soul to be a breeding ground for anger to direct your life.  Don’t allow the faces of anger to fuel and define your decisions, your life and your relationships.  You are way more powerful than you are giving yourself credit for. 
 
Take back your life- anger doesnt’ deserve your time or energy!

 
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When the soul cries!

Article written by Nekisha-Michelle

When the soul cries, we must remember it is a sign that it is impossible to live without the presence and the power of God.  It takes discipline and a personal experience to put God first, so we sometimes lack the direction of how to incorporate divinity in our every day lives.  But the absence of it allows emotional pain and chaos to fester uncontrollably. 
 
When you put your divinity first you are moving beyond saying I believe in God or a higher power to becoming aligned with your higher self and the higher self only wants to create miracles and opportunities for you to exceed beyond your wildest dreams.  But it does not stop there – your higher self seeks to share with others the lessons, the route and the support so that others can reach their highest self too.  It’s the gift that keeps on giving.
 
In the hustle and bustle of life we forget who we are and what the true meaning of life is all about.  This article was written to help you reclaim and redefine your divinity because it is that quiet voice on the inside that urges you to make bold moves and the bold “out of the box moves” is what will quiet the crying soul.  Your divinity will provide the direction that will see you safely through the recession, it is the strength that will comfort you through the times when you feel your loneliness and when you are asking “why me?”.  It is the saving grace that will keep your business from going under and your job from being cut.  During times like these we need SUPER with our NATURAL.
 
Reconnect to the super in  you.   Reconnect to your beliefs.  Reconnect to what matters to you the most.  When you reconnect you will silence the crying soul of confusion, stagnation, disappointment, anger, and shame.  When you reconnect you will find your voice, your way, your personal power to stand! The only way to stop the soul from crying is by reconnecting and honoring who you are, honoring your divinity and partnering without hesitation and doing everything that God is summonsing you to do.  Miracles still happen and they happen through you.  
 
In the words of Mary Kay Ash – put God first, Family second and Career third!  Watch that soul heal and prosper!

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Don’t You Dare Give Up!

Article written by Nekisha-Michelle 

There are seasons when we hit a dry spell.  For instance, the economy is in a horrible recession and we are literally robbing Peter to pay Paul.  But despite the economy there are times when we experience the moments where it’s dry, discouraging, desolate and you feel barren.   As a matter of fact, everything you attempt to accomplish produces zero results; as if all of your genius power and creative ability has been zapped and dismantled.

After asking yourself, “why is this happening?”  You start to reflect on how you’ve been pro-active by spending hundreds and in some cases thousands of dollars seeking the answers only to find it’s a temporary relief from the pressure of having your world flipped up-side-down.
After a search within, I’ve cracked the code to this season and the first thing I want to say is Don’t you dare give up!  The answer I have will give you some deeper insight on what in the heck is happening.  The solution to this dry spell is Your Second Wind is Coming!

 The second wind can be defined as a breakthrough to your new level of being, doing and having.  The second wind is that magical breath that takes over when your regular breathing is about to give out and has reached it’s operating capacity.  Runners often say, it’s hard until I get my second wind.
 
The second wind is a supernatural experience that Bet Midler sings about in “Wind Beneath My Wings”.  It’s the second set of foot prints in the renown poem “Foot Prints”.  The second wind is the fourth person in the pit of fire that is recorded in the bible when the 3 Hebrew boys where thrown in because they were relentless in observing their traditional beliefs.  The second wind is demonstrated when Le Bron James hit the famous 3 pointer basket at the buzzard to allow his team to win the basketball game in the NBA playoffs.
So what’s the point?

 
#1. The second wind coming is a sign that it is time to move up to a higher level because where you are – you have already completed the activities and fulfilled the assignment and purpose.

#2. The second wind coming is a reminder that in order to experience miracles and manifestations you must use up every resource internally and externally so that you understand the power you are capable of unleashing and possessing.

 #3. The second wind coming is your sign to increase, turn-up and intensify your affirmations, your prayer, your positive belief system, your giving, your joy, your gratitude, your love, your self-acceptance, your meditation and your written road-map to success and to succeed.
 
You cannot be defeated if you never give up! 
 
In conclusion, the dry place is not a place just for trials and tribulations, it is not a place of sorrow and depression, it is not a place of failure and insecurity.  The dry place is a sign that your second wind is coming.  It is that second wind that will propel you to a redesigned YOU.  
 
Play Bigger – being small benefits NO ONE!!! 

 
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How to be a human magnet and get what you want!

How to be a human magnet and get what you want!

I once had a speaking mentor that kept saying she was going to be on the Oprah show every-time she stepped on the speaking platform.  She was so animated and certain that she was going to be a guest on the Oprah show.  She would share what she visualized that she would be wearing and what she would be doing and I could not help but to say silently inside, “yea right”  we all believe we are going to be on the Oprah show.   Well one year later – I almost fainted because guess what? My mentor ended up on the Oprah show.  Of course I did not get jealous I got curious as to what was the secret ingredient to her being able to go from sharing a vision to actually having that vision materialize is such a powerful and magnetic way?
 
She believed in the power of Focus.  In Mary Kay Cosmetics they teach the new business owner to Focus – follow one course until successful.  However, I want to share the process of 5 factors of how to focus so that you can become magically magnetic and get what you want.
 
1. Understand that your subconscious mind is what attracts to you your current circumstances and it is what you don’t know that creates the gap and inconsistency’s in life.
 
2.   You must rewire you r subconscious mind to expand itself to accept what you really want.
 
3.  You expand your subconscious mind by making space in your life to receive.
 
4.  You expand your subconscious by holding a visual image of what you want with the words that describe the visual image near it.   So for example I have a dream board and on my board I have images as well as the words that describe what I want.
 
5.  You want to meditate on these written and visual images for 21 consecutive days each time you are connecting your logical self(left brain) with your creative & emotional self (right brain).  When the two sides of your brain see the same image and are saying the same thing.   You begin to manifest what you want.

 
The Secret:   The secret to this FOCUS method working successfully is dependent upon you  being deliberate, certain, passionate about what you are seeing.  After your brain sees this image for 21 days it leaves an imprint on your subconscious stamping TRUE on it.   When your brain sees TRUE or Truth – it begins to create opportunities for validation of what is TRUE!
 
So what is it that you really want?  More money, love, confidence – you can have it by the simple deliberate action of FOCUS.  Remember, whatever the mind can conceive it will achieve.  As a result you will become a human magnet to your dreams, desires and goals.

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Who is Nekisha-Michelle Bakre, MSW?

Nekisha-Michelle is CEO of Living Vivaciously Consulting, a coaching and consulting company passionate about mentoring women professionals, entertainers and new entrepreneurs around the world on how to take control of their life and embrace the star that they already are. 

While Nekisha-Michelle is best known for Spajamaworks programs where she  coaches women on how to decrease their personal struggle in life with the philosophy of  “reclaim and redefine your life”-her clients say her biggest impact comes from her drive to model to others the power and possibilities of entrepreneurship, living boldly and the ability to continue to live vivaciously despite many of life’s blocks and barriers to personal success.

From a mother at 14 years old and overcoming depression and anxiety challenges, Nekisha-Michelle believes it is imperative to live your life with courage and believe that you are entitled to have all of life’s goodness.

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Nekisha-Michelle Bakre, MSW
Emotional Wellness Expert & Self-Investment Strategist
Life Coach, Author & Talk Radio Host
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We’ve come this far by faith- How to recession proof your faith!

I dedicate this posting to my African-American ancestors that were able to accomplish so much with so little.  When you look at the foundation of their existence and their WHY they had to struggle to make this world in which we live a better place for everyone, it was all about FAITH! 

Faith, a total reliance on something that they could not see but a deep gratifying knowing that it was there and working behind the scenes so that the inner most dreams and desires would be realized.  Today, I think we over complicate faith to the point that we no longer understand it and when we have to rely on faith to get us through day-by-day it causes emotional imbalance and fear.  My husband was sharing with me the other day how a man that he was transporting home was so shaken up and confused because he had lost everything.  He was shaken to the point that my husband had to help him get his key into the door of his home.  At first, pity came upon me and I could tell from the way my husband was recalling the situation he had just as much pity, but then, I begin to think about how spoiled we have been to build our lives and happiness around material possessions and now that it is crumbling for so many – we are going out of our minds.  America, we are allowing the recession to swallow up and deminish faith.

What happened to faith?  What happened to when one door shuts another will open?  What happened to being the keeper of our brother and our sister?  What happened to bartering?  What happened to prayer and the knowing that if God takes care of the birds that eat everyday, why would He not take care of His most brilliant work of art, Us, humans, me and you, you and I?  

This is a call to delight ourselves in the Lord and He will give us the desires of our hearts.  God says in the bible without faith it is impossible to please HIM.   I believe this is the time of God calling us to move our lives forward with only being certain that He that begin a good work will continue until the day of Jesus Christ our Lord.

We’ve come this far by faith, why not release the fear and keep faith as the beacon and the foundation of our life?  It is up to you, who’s report will you believe….?  The three top reasons I believe we don’t want to rely on faith:

1.  It takes the control away from us and leaves it up to the natural occurrence of the universe.

2. It is very uncomfortable and inconvenient.

3.  It means that you have to rely on something that you can’t see or touch which is almost insane.

But I think about my dear Harriet Tubman when she ran away from the plantation with a head condition that caused her to have black outs.  She didn’t have money, she was black, she was a woman, she was a slave, she could not read or write and she had never been off the plantation except to work in the city.  She had nothing but her faith and to follow the path that had been shown to her.

If she could do it – we can do it too even in the recession- recession is not a ugly thing it just means that we have to skin the fat and adjust our minds body and spirit to live off of what is necessary long enough until we can hear the call for the next phase or chapter of our lives.

Two things you can do to stay mentally healthy during this recession and while you are learning to live by faith.

1.  Study the bible so you can get familiar with history and patterns and what people did when famines would come upon the earth.  This is not the first nor will be the last time a famine will come to the land.

2.  Hire a life coach, life coaches have a unique ability to help you see optimistically and help you uncover and reherse those things that can quickly change your quality of life. Life coaches are great accountability partners and cheerleaders.

They that know their God shall be strong and do exploits!  Do you know your God?  If not get a bible and a coach and you can.

Nekisha-Michelle Bakre, MSW
Emotional Wellness Expert & Self-Investment Strategist
Life coach. Seminar speaker. Talk Radio Host.
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Ending the violence against women and girls!

Did you know that 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year?  Not to mention, that most cases of domestic violence are never reported to the police.  Did you know that historically, females have been most often victimized by someone they knew?  Well I have committed to do my part in raising awareness and empowering women to feel good about themselves and reclaim their lives even if they have found themselves the object of someones issue with POWER & CONTROL.

I am doing my part in two ways, first, by telling my story of overcoming years of being victimized and living through child abuse as well as being the punching bag to a former boyfriend.  The story in my opinion is not what I went through but the story is how I turned it all around to be productive and positive as well as prosperous.  Yes, I am speaking of my new book release , Breaking Invisible Chains, Gaining the Confidence to Redesign Your Life.  It is available by going to www.spajamaworks.com/bic.htm

The second way that I am empowering women and raising awareness is by attending The Vagina Monologues in support of the V-Day season.  Eve Ensler started a movement to help women understand their worth by explaining the power of the Vagina!  I love it – being free to talk about The Vagina.  Well I am on my way to DC with Producer Yetta Young and her black celebrity cast to witness the production of The Vagina Monologues.  For more information about attending one of these productions please go to www.inlovewetrusttour.com

I want you to use this blog to tell your story but don’t just tell what you went through…tell how you got through because you never know who needs to hear your battle cry – your personal plan of victory!  I know you have one so please share with us here we need to hear from you.

Until next time,

Keep living vivaciously,

Nekisha-Michelle Bakre, MSW
Emotional Wellness Expert & Self-Investment Strategist
www.spajamaworks.com

Nekisha-Michelle’s Book Nook

I shared a few books in my last post that helped move me to the next level.  So I thought I would take the time to add a few more of my “catalyst books to a redesigned life”!    I am your personal life strategist coach and I want to help you with everything you need to prepare your mind for a dynamic 2009!  Purchase your books today, all you have to do is click on the link and it will take you to my Amazon store.  ( I am a personal Amazon junkie)!!!  Enjoy…   if you need me I will be located at www.spajamaworks.com.   Put your email where it says subscribe so you can be in my personal database.

The Book Nook

The Secret

The Laws of Thinking: 20 Secrets to Using the Divine Power of Your Mind to Manifest Prosperity

Scripture Keys for Kingdom Living

The Millionaire Joshua: His Prosperity Secrets for You! (Millionaires of the Bible)

Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth

Life Mapping: A Journey of Self-Discovery and Path Finding

Dynamic Diva Dollars

Rewriting the Script

Happy for No Reason: 7 Steps to Being Happy from the Inside Out

Release Your Brilliance: The 4 Steps to Transforming Your Life and Revealing Your Genius to the World

All the Joy You Can Stand: 101 Sacred Power Principles for Making Joy Real in Your Life

Get Clients Now!(TM): A 28-Day Marketing Program for Professionals, Consultants, and Coaches

October is Emotional Awareness Month

Are you emotionally balanced?  Do you need some help or support with your finances, love relationships, spirituality quest or career/business?   To do nothing is saying that you are satisfied with pain and you are not willing to allow yourself the freedom of partnership and growth.  Read this release and hopefully tell the truth about what is really going on – inside!   Love always Nekisha-Michelle

<a href=’http://www.free-press-release.com/news/200810/1223601092.html&#8217; target=’_blank’>Press Release: Life Redesign Expert Honors October Emotional Awareness Month</a>